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As with all parents when A began to babble I couldn’t wait until he would say his 1st word. Me & his Dad had always commented on how clever & alert A was & we both thought he would be a really quick talker.

Then the moment came, he was around 10 months old & whilst babbling away he said ‘Dada’ needless to say we where overjoyed – but I remember thinking ‘Why Dada? What about me? Mummy?’ 🙂

We know now it meant nothing, he was just babbling. A, was a very content baby, a really good sleeper & hardly ever cried – he began pulling himself up with the furniture at around 9 & a half months old, he then crawled the day after his first birthday & started walking at 14 & a half months – we then waited for him to begin talking.

We go on holiday usually twice a year, one at the beginning of the year, one at the end & each time me & his Dad would say, next holiday he’ll be talking, so we’ll enjoy it more, he can say what he wants to do, where he’d like to go – then the next holiday we’d say the same, and then the next…..

– and we are still waiting.

I used to put it down to the fact ‘boys are lazy’ & the more I thought about it the more I began to think it may have been down to me that he wasn’t talking, I always knew what he wanted, you learn to recognise what each sound/moan means, dirty nappy/hungry etc. I would always give him his meals at set times so he’d never go hungry – never have to ask for food.

As time went on, I was more & more concerned that A still wasn’t talking, it was at the time of his 2 year development check that others began voicing their concerns at his lack of speech. I think that’s when I finally accepted, it wasn’t just his speech that was missing. He didn’t make eye contact, he didn’t point at anything, he didn’t play with any toys, he wasn’t interested in playing with other children. Would never answer to his name, with it once being suggested he may have hearing problems…everything began to add up.

A, not speaking puts a great strain on us. His lack of understanding means its even more difficult. He gets frustrated easily and will moan an awful lot, and I can’t just fix it for him by asking him what’s wrong? Its a lot of guess work, you become a detective in a way.

Its even harder when A is poorly, he can’t tell me where it hurts or if he’d like anything to eat or drink, he can’t pre-warn me if he’s feeling sick.

A lot of A’s lack of speech & understanding attributes to difficulties we have such as at mealtimes or if we want to go out, he can’t tell us if he’s not quite hungry, or what he wants or more so doesn’t want to eat.

& then there’s the ‘small’ things, he can’t tell us what he wants for his birthday or christmas, he hasn’t a clue when they are coming so we miss out on the build up of the excitement, although, whose saying it would be a build of excitement? The whole time may be too overwhelming…

A struggles expressing different emotions, he hardly ever cries and as I said before he rarely did when he was a baby. When excited he will jump up and down, makes noises or bite his fist.

We now give A choices of two things where possible to try and see what he wants, he likes that as he likes to be in control.
We use objects of reference when its mealtimes or we want to get him to lie down for his nappy changed, for example show him a nappy or his wipes.

We are also in the process of introducing a visual timetable, I’ve made lots of symbols to give A an idea of what’s going to be happening in the day, they are a symbol of something that A can relate to with a word underneath. On request, A will sometimes copy a word so I’m hoping this will also help his speech to develop.

The only spontaneous speech A has is the word ‘Marmo’ for Mario.

We have lots of hope for A developing speech, we know it will take time but we also know he has the ability to talk.
Hopefully once he gets speech therapy & begins school there’ll be no shutting him up – well here’s hoping 🙂

If any of you have similar stories, please share them below 🙂

L x

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